My life sometimes feels like a roller coaster. And I use my daily life in how I write my blogs. So as I begin this one, I want to ask you a question: Whose fighting for you? This has been a revelation that I've had just this week.
As some of you know I just recently went through an engagement break up in August. And I've dealt pretty well with the circumstances. I've had my ups and my downs with it. As we all do when something dramatic happens in your life. If you've been through a major break up in your life, you know how my emotions have been a roller coaster over the past 3 months. I know I made the right decision in breaking it off and have had much support!
As I've shared, its been ups and downs and the people closet to me know the details and know the emotions I went through. I will respect my ex and not share all the dirty details of our past relationship. But I do want to share the revelation that God gave me last week to bring much closure that I've needed and I believe this will help many of you dealing with any type of situation or trial.
I was in some prayer time and God spoke so clearly to me. So clear and evident that I didn't question it one bit. God spoke to me "He never fought for you. Not once." In the big picture this was protection for me not to go back. But God said "Whitney, I have been fighting for you since day one, even before you bowed your knee down to me." I was like WHOA WHOA!!! It brought me such a peace and new perspective that I have been needing.
Two verses that I have looked up since this revelation:
Exodus 14:14
"The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still."
Deuteronomy 3:22
" Do not be afraid of them; the Lord your God himself will fight for you."
Doing a little research and looking up that God himself is daily fighting for us. He hasn't left us! So even the feelings of not being fought for in a relationship with my ex, I know that my God has fought for me! Friends no matter how you are feeling and how bad things are going in your life. Know the Lord is fighting the battle for you. He has never left your side, even if you feel like he has. I know I feel so hopeless at times and then I see God work in an amazing way in my life to remind me he is fighting for me!!! He is fighting for you! In your despair today you have not lost your battle, it is being fought for you right now.
I love that in my darkest days that we serve a God that is fighting for ME and YOU each day! How much hope does that give you? It excites me to fight my next battle. And we are ALL in one. Even when you don't feel others fighting for you and your let down by them. Know you serve a mighty God who will ALWAYS fight for you.
Be encouraged that you are being fought for daily. He is our protector.
Tuesday, November 26, 2013
Wednesday, November 20, 2013
The Way Society Views Self-Image
Guys I'm going to get gut level honest. I'm so sickened this evening as I write this blog post. There are few things I'm passionate about and Eating disorders is one of them. I post about my personal journey on here and I'm not ashamed of it either. I'm beyond open about this journey because its a beautiful journey!
You ask, why am I so sickened? Well I was on facebook this week and saw a blog post "5 reasons to date a girl with an eating disorder"
http://www.returnofkings.com/21313/5-reasons-to-date-a-girl-with-an-eating-disorder
If you'd like to check it out yourself do, but be prepared to be disturbed in how the world views people with EDs.
1) "Her obsession over her body will improve her overall looks"
that was his number one on the top 5 of the list. We as women want to look nice and we try hard to achieve this goal. I know I'm guilty of it. But when I was deep into my addiction of my eating disorder I wanted to be in my room and always in sweats. I didn't have a single bit of confidence to be with people. So in reality it doesn't always improve "her" overall looks. And also he isn't looking at her heart. He is only looking at the outward apperience. He sadly hasn't even taken the time to look beyond her looks, size, fashion. Because I know that girl is dying on the inside. Something had to have happened to the person to trigger the control of food. But this guy is not concerned about her mental health. There's always a "Why" behind the action. And it takes time to get to the reason why. But we as men and women have to take that moment to dig deeper and get to know that person whose hurting, build trust, and allow the Lord to use you in their healing and journey.
1 Samuel 16:7 MSG
But God told Samuel, "looks aren't everything. Don't be impressed with his looks and stature. I've already eliminated him. God judges persons differently than humans do. Men and Women look at the face; God looks into the heart."
2) "She cost less money"
REALLY?? Hello world?? Why are we all so messed up? Yes I said it! We are MESSED up. But we are covered by the blood of Jesus. He says " she gets a side salad, small meal, or just eats off of his plate. If he truly is pursuing this woman for hopes of a future relationship he's going to be very disappointed when she begins to eat and wants to find healing and recovery. Her body, mental state, socially shift, and attitude will all change. What happens when she he takes her out on a date and the tab is an extra 20$ because she has chosen to eat? Does he dump her then? Does he leave her because of the extra 5 lbs she's gained?? Shouldn't this man (boy) not look at how much she cost but look at the beauty inside. She probably radiates MORE than he would ever know. People who struggle with eating disorders are: some of the most beautiful people, have the biggest heart, compassionate, caring, loving, best friends, mothers, sisters, daughters, mentors, encourager's. THEY ARE REAL PEOPLE!!!
3) "she's fragile and vulnerable"
As he states since girls with eating disorders are so insecure that they are better to be around than the obnoxious girls who " have it all together". Okay even those girls are insecure, you just may not see it as much as you do with a girl whose struggling with an eating disorder. He likes that she always wants to please him. This comes with the territory of a woman in general and most people dealing with an eating disorder wants to make everyone happy. Its truth. But this is not what we have to define her as. See the sweet, tender, helpful, tasteful woman behind the masks of an eating disorder. People need to stop taking advantage of these sweet spirited women and take a moment and look on the inside of who God created them to be. God loves each and everyone of us.
4) " Probably has money of her own."
I"m literally laughing out loud! It's a rich and white girl issue. I'm sorry but this is so far from the truth. I have seen most races, ethnicity's, cultures who deal with severe eating disorders. So don't be surprised when an African American girl shows up and shares her struggle. It comes in ALL, shapes, sizes, and forms. Its in other countries where there is not as much money and not much education. People struggle whether they are living in poverty or living well above poverty. And what does it matter which level we're in anyways? Aren't we ALL called to live in unity as one? So it doesn't matter how much money you have. Money most likely didn't cause their eating disorder. Money situation did not begin my battle of an eating disorder. Abuse, hurt, anxiety, and acceptance all began my own battle.
5) " She's better in bed" I'm not going here with this topic.
I was pretty irate when I saw this post. So I needed to have a little rant. I am very passionate about fighting for people who struggle with eating disorders. I know how hard it can be, I've been there. We need support from others! When people belittle a disease that takes so many lives just hurts me. I lost a dear friend just nearly 2 months ago to a life long battle of an eating disorder. This disease took over her mind and body. So I pray that we will stop enlightening it and tell it for what it really is! WE can save lives with the help and strength from the Lord!
If you are in the midst of a hard battle please contact me. I'd love to walk this out with you. God has done miracle after miracle in my life and the healing I've had from my eating disorder. Don't get me wrong, I still have days where its hard but you just have to fight those days! Keep your head up! Stay strong and keep SWIMMING!
You ask, why am I so sickened? Well I was on facebook this week and saw a blog post "5 reasons to date a girl with an eating disorder"
http://www.returnofkings.com/21313/5-reasons-to-date-a-girl-with-an-eating-disorder
If you'd like to check it out yourself do, but be prepared to be disturbed in how the world views people with EDs.
1) "Her obsession over her body will improve her overall looks"
that was his number one on the top 5 of the list. We as women want to look nice and we try hard to achieve this goal. I know I'm guilty of it. But when I was deep into my addiction of my eating disorder I wanted to be in my room and always in sweats. I didn't have a single bit of confidence to be with people. So in reality it doesn't always improve "her" overall looks. And also he isn't looking at her heart. He is only looking at the outward apperience. He sadly hasn't even taken the time to look beyond her looks, size, fashion. Because I know that girl is dying on the inside. Something had to have happened to the person to trigger the control of food. But this guy is not concerned about her mental health. There's always a "Why" behind the action. And it takes time to get to the reason why. But we as men and women have to take that moment to dig deeper and get to know that person whose hurting, build trust, and allow the Lord to use you in their healing and journey.
1 Samuel 16:7 MSG
But God told Samuel, "looks aren't everything. Don't be impressed with his looks and stature. I've already eliminated him. God judges persons differently than humans do. Men and Women look at the face; God looks into the heart."
2) "She cost less money"
REALLY?? Hello world?? Why are we all so messed up? Yes I said it! We are MESSED up. But we are covered by the blood of Jesus. He says " she gets a side salad, small meal, or just eats off of his plate. If he truly is pursuing this woman for hopes of a future relationship he's going to be very disappointed when she begins to eat and wants to find healing and recovery. Her body, mental state, socially shift, and attitude will all change. What happens when she he takes her out on a date and the tab is an extra 20$ because she has chosen to eat? Does he dump her then? Does he leave her because of the extra 5 lbs she's gained?? Shouldn't this man (boy) not look at how much she cost but look at the beauty inside. She probably radiates MORE than he would ever know. People who struggle with eating disorders are: some of the most beautiful people, have the biggest heart, compassionate, caring, loving, best friends, mothers, sisters, daughters, mentors, encourager's. THEY ARE REAL PEOPLE!!!
3) "she's fragile and vulnerable"
As he states since girls with eating disorders are so insecure that they are better to be around than the obnoxious girls who " have it all together". Okay even those girls are insecure, you just may not see it as much as you do with a girl whose struggling with an eating disorder. He likes that she always wants to please him. This comes with the territory of a woman in general and most people dealing with an eating disorder wants to make everyone happy. Its truth. But this is not what we have to define her as. See the sweet, tender, helpful, tasteful woman behind the masks of an eating disorder. People need to stop taking advantage of these sweet spirited women and take a moment and look on the inside of who God created them to be. God loves each and everyone of us.
4) " Probably has money of her own."
I"m literally laughing out loud! It's a rich and white girl issue. I'm sorry but this is so far from the truth. I have seen most races, ethnicity's, cultures who deal with severe eating disorders. So don't be surprised when an African American girl shows up and shares her struggle. It comes in ALL, shapes, sizes, and forms. Its in other countries where there is not as much money and not much education. People struggle whether they are living in poverty or living well above poverty. And what does it matter which level we're in anyways? Aren't we ALL called to live in unity as one? So it doesn't matter how much money you have. Money most likely didn't cause their eating disorder. Money situation did not begin my battle of an eating disorder. Abuse, hurt, anxiety, and acceptance all began my own battle.
5) " She's better in bed" I'm not going here with this topic.
I was pretty irate when I saw this post. So I needed to have a little rant. I am very passionate about fighting for people who struggle with eating disorders. I know how hard it can be, I've been there. We need support from others! When people belittle a disease that takes so many lives just hurts me. I lost a dear friend just nearly 2 months ago to a life long battle of an eating disorder. This disease took over her mind and body. So I pray that we will stop enlightening it and tell it for what it really is! WE can save lives with the help and strength from the Lord!
If you are in the midst of a hard battle please contact me. I'd love to walk this out with you. God has done miracle after miracle in my life and the healing I've had from my eating disorder. Don't get me wrong, I still have days where its hard but you just have to fight those days! Keep your head up! Stay strong and keep SWIMMING!
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